Posts Tagged ‘Taekwondo’

Reminiscing on behavior, outcome, and Buddy Baker..

Thursday, July 1st, 2010

 

 

Excellence is not an act.. but a habit.. Aristotle

..a terrific quote.. one instilled on me in college by my legendary trombone professor, Mr. Edwin “Buddy” Baker. (he once told me even his mother didn’t know who “Edwin” was!) The topic was the pure enjoyment, in a Zen sense, of practice for its own sake.

So many martial art students dread and avoid the practice aspect of their craft. They are focused on the next belt, the big tournament, or worse yet the story they tell their family and co-workers. I always notice with some curiosity the overall training avoidance people have in the summer – and the myriad of BS excuses – like “I have family in town” – used to justify personal laziness and the need to self-pleasure through food and drink.

Too often we are solely “outcome focused” – the classic example is “I want to earn my black belt” – when the correct mode of producing unreal long-term results is to be “behavior focused.” It is the training that created the skill that is important – more important than the belt, and even more important than the skill itself.

At a party I listened in horror as the parents of a young girl, who has been training for 3 years and working toward her 1st Poom stated “we just can’t wait for her to get her black belt so she can quit.” My response, “why not just quit now? if that is the goal then just do it – you’re going to flush all her work anyway.” Classic example: OUTCOME FOCUSED (WRONG) versus BEHAVIOR FOCUSED (RIGHT).

So then, how does one motivate a student (or yourself for that matter) to continue the desired behavior-oriented mindset? The answer lies in values – your core beliefs about who you are, what you do, how you conduct yourself. One needs internal values and self-identity that values the behavior that produces the results.  

So, my challenge to you is to find that behavior you are missing and make it a part of WHO YOU ARE… hold yourself to a standard.

The Contract Factor

Monday, November 23rd, 2009

As my students know, we operate our classes completely free of contracts for tuition. My thought is that if you are not motivated to train I don’t want you in class. This has some advantages – flexibility for the students, for one, but has one distinct drawback: commitment.


Frankly, most people operate in a sort of mental haze – moving from one distraction to another and need inspiration to undertake anything remotely as challenging (on several fronts) as Taekwondo. Paraphrasing Randy Snow, inspiration is no good because it does not last – MOTIVATION is key because it comes from inside.

Contracts usually represent a solid financial commitment. As one student told me years ago, “I’m already paying for this I might as well go to class” – without the constant payments the urge to foster the innate slothy behavior that permeates our culture would surely have taken over.


Does this mean my long-standing policy is about to change. No. We all need to make contracts and agreements with ourselves to achieve what we want out of life, and our Martial Art is no exception.

The Summer Blahs

Sunday, July 19th, 2009

For at least the 32 years I have been in the art the summer months always seem to mean one thing: Low attendance. I don’t know if its a throw-back to the agrarian lifestyle or WHAT but summer months mean very little new students, and light attendance by existing students.

Lots of excuses are there – the family vacation, the family in town, etc.. But I think the real deal-killer is the heat-based onset of laziness. It happens even to the most OCD individuals among us. Summer heat means it feels better to go home, go out, lay out, or do anything that does NOT involve sweating.

I remember the summer months in Wisconsin – when the studio (nothing even remotely resembling AC) was 98 degrees at 6:20 when we were warming up for class. Even for a skinny eleven year old I found myself ringing wet even before we got into kick drills. The complaining was always a sign of who was going to succumb to their demons and play instead of train. What was interesting was what happened in mid September…

The people who did not come to class found their way back to class as the weather got cool, kids got back to school, and the leaves started to change. The other thing they found was that their skills had lapsed – badly – they were not at the same level they were when they blamed the heat for their absence. What Dad and I found, however, was that our skills were not the same either: they were BETTER. The toiling in the heat, as brutal as it was, created the foundation of skills and discipline that made the high times that much more enjoyable. Enjoyable for us, that is.

The folks who played in lieu of training, in most cases, were highly depressed at how far they had gone in the other direction compared to us in the right direction. This depression led literally all of them to quit. Now, 30+ years later we reminisce about what rank these people would be now, and the health and friendships they would have.

So, do yourself a favor and conquer yourself.. “A man can conquer a million men in battle, but a man who conquers himself, is indeed the greatest of all conquerors.” — Buddha